One of the things that I am grateful for is true love. Its just one of those things that many people never get to experience. If you do, consider yourself blessed.
I am here to say that I was once like so many Michael Jackson fans who felt like Michael was the only one for me. I loved his creativity, his sensibility, his sensitivity. Michael was so delicate yet so strong and powerful. His voice, sometimes soft as a whisper but other times deep and thrashing like the oceans waves. His big brown eyes, that perfectly chiseled face, the physique and stance of the most graceful dancer. His beauty evolved as the years went by and his flaws were what made him "perfection" to me.
I can say that I will probably always be attracted to the qualities that I love most in Michael.
That's for SURE.
But there's this stereotype of Michael Jackson fans being so in love with Michael, that they are unable to be in loving relationships with men or women in the real world. I am here to say... that's simply not true. Many of us have found amazing significant others who are fellow Michael Jackson fanatics, and some of us have found love in others who respect our adoration of the King of Pop.
Lessons from Michael: Don't let your love for Michael Jackson prevent you from missing out on true love and companionship.
Are you a Michael Jackson fan that has found it difficult to date?
Do you feel like MJ has set the bar wayyyyyyyy too high?
Leave me a comment! xx
This is an amazing subject. And yes, since I was about 11 years old when my mother brought home the Thriller album, I knew Michael was gonna be my husband (even tho I had no idea what that really meant at the time). Over the years I've dated and fell in love once or twice but Michael was my first. As I got older, I realized that he is still my ideal mate. I am still looking tho, but I have also come to terms that if I dont, Michael will always be there.
ReplyDeleteSame here!
Delete"Will any man enamor me the way Michael has?" This is something I've always wondered about myself. I remember there was a time, around the trial actually, when I was so full of love for Michael that I saw it as an impossibility to love anyone that was in front of me. No one could match all that he was. All men looked, boring. Stupid, actually and frankly. I couldn't help but naturally compare. Ever since he passed, my mind has opened. I don't know if it was my brain's way of coping with the reality of him being gone, or me growing as a human being. But I had a paradigm shift. I came to terms with Michael's humanity. I saw the wonderful things he did with who he was, and I used that mentality to carry into my future relationships. I saw the potential greatness in every person. I can now say I'm in the most perfect relationship with a man who has becharmed me in ways unimaginable. AND, he loves Michael and UNDERSTANDS my attraction to Michael. We listen to Michael all the time now. He's out there ladies, if you set the standard. But you've also gotta open your minds as well. :D It's work, but for your happiness, it's worth it! It's something Michael would want for us gals. <3 Much L.O.V.E. to all of you!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for sharing Jonelle! We've gotta set those standards and keep em!
DeleteWelll I have been in love with Michael since I was a young girl, but was able to be interested in other guys. Unfortunately, I married the wrong person and was miserable for 17 years of marriage because he was emotionally abusive. I still had trials with him after the divorce because we had kids together, which I raised alone without much help from except for a little bit of court ordered child support (he doesn't like jail). I tried dating in 2011, although I wasn't really into it. People kept telling that I should and that I was too much into Michael. I went out a date with three different people (not all at the same time of course)! Well, it wasn't for me and one guy almost ended up being a stalker after one date! I didn't kiss him or anything and had known him for 8 years prior. He was going through a break up and I just trying to be there as a friend. He started talking marriage to me again, AFTER ONE DATE! I told him I wasn't the one for him and he wouldn't listen until I had to threaten to take action legally. Thank god he stopped. I say all this to say that I know where my heart truly belongs and I shouldn't listen to people to do otherwise. My heart is with Michael. He makes me happy. I love him the same as I would a mate. That is enough for me. I want to stay true to my heart and not let other sway me because they think my choice to love and be devoted a man who is no longer here is not what "they" see as normal. No one makes me feel like he does. I love to look at his eyes and hear his voice. His gifts are beyond anything I have ever witnessed. To me, he was perfect in heart and in beauty. If others find love and can keep Michael at the same time, I say good for you! But for me, he is my love and I am good with that. Thanks for posting this. This the first time I ever seen someone approach the subject.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for your comment. It's good to know so many of us can relate to this!
DeleteI am married to my high school sweetheart. We have been married for 9 years and have been together for 16 years. He has always known how much I love MJ, although I think he didn't expect it to grow over all these years. I admit, I must be careful not to hurt his feelings with my fawning, but overall, he understands. I have a friend who is as fanatical about MJ as I am so I can always "Michael" with her instead of talking his head off about him. I love my husband in a way that is different from my MJ love and sometimes, I'll admit, I wonder how I can possibly feel this strongly for someone I never knew personally. I feel way better reading this post and the replies. I think tat relationships can be possible while being a MJ Fangirl... You just have to have respect for the other person's feelings and remember that Michael was one of a kind so he is not to be compared to anyone. Really cool post!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing! I love that you are able to find that balance and still maintain your love for your husband, without toning down your love for Michael. I hope to do the same, whenever I become a wife :)
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